Monday, February 20, 2012

My Jan trip with friends

I had written here that there is something being planned and I didn’t want to jinx it-and that was this plan  of an all girls outing over the republic day weekend.. It initially started off with 5 of us – U,C,T,Gundu and me but then U’s hubby met with an accident and she backed off and C ‘ gave haath’ in the last minute. But still the plan was on and we did go on this trip – Aha! Here’s the summary of the 3 days holiday without family,hubby,baby – My first ever with friends!


Day 1: We started at 6am from my home as I was the first pickup and by the time we eventually left bangalore it was nearly 7.30. Added to that was the holiday traffic and all restaurants were crowded. We eventually decided to stop for brkfast at 9 at KAmat Loka Ruchi, had yummy akki rotti and idlis and started from there again in about half hour.We chatted non-stop until we reached the resort and even told the driver that we have been friends since school so we have a lot ofcatching up to do! We reached the Windflower resort by 1pm and all doubts of how the place will be just vanished just looking at the reception area! Oh Man! That resort was bliss just bliss. And the suite my friend had boked was just short of heaven! Jacuzzi and rain shower in a h.u.g.e bathroom and comfy double bed with an additional roll-on bed. Despite all plans of going out after lunch, we ate so much that we just lazed around on the bed watching TV and internet,applying nail polish (yeah,I realised I hadnt applied one in God knows how long a time!) and talking just about everything under the sun! Despite eating like a pig at lunch (I should've made a note of all things we ate over the days!) we were hungry by dinner time - amazing! By dinner the temperature had fallen and it was cold enough for me to take out the pullover which actually occupied half my luggage :-) Again, we downed the dinner along with a glass of red wine. 2 sips of that wine and I had this light buzz that I was unhappy about - a kick for just 2 sips - Che! That was just not me. And I also worried that I would end up loosing control (which issomething that I hate) and so much to my friend T's embarassment and chagrin I ate curd rice to get the effect off :-D And then finished the complete glass quite comfortably. We then went back to the room by 10.30 and while the other 2 were contemplating the outside rain shower or jacuzzi I was in snoozeland in no time. Just the thought that I dont have to wake up in the middle of the night to give a bottle to Chutku or be aware of not rolling on him in sleep - whatever it was-I slept real peacefully and didnt get up until 5.30am when T suddenly shouted at her brother in sleep :-) (Another solace-Im not the only one who talks in sleep!)

Day 2: After which I couldnt go back to sleep no matter how much I tried, so I woke up at 6, opened the balcony doors - stepped out and saw the sun rise. The fresh chilly air, the chirping of birds and then a few really small yellow ones flitting here and there already. And then I came in to check my emails if any and while I sat there not really interested in the laptop looking out, a magpie came to the balcony,stood outside the door and sat staring at me for a few moments. Then it pecked at some dirt there,looked at me again and just flew away - it was such a peaceful moment-just thinking about it makes me sigh!

We had called the Spa in advance for a head,neck and shoulder massage at 9am and so Gundu and I went to brkfast at 8 and then walked to the spa. The massage was soo good that it gave me a buzz equal to being drunk the previous evening. Just bliss again...It was so good that Gundu decided to get a back massage too and since T was also getting it done-they convinced me to get one too! So all morning we were at the Spa getting massages done and comparing notes :-) It was a struggle to even walk back to the room after that! Unfortunately we had planned to go to Talacauvery, Bagamandala and Madikeri Raja seat in the afternoon so after a heavy lunch again we started at 3 to these places. Tala Cauvery was real cool with the clouds hovering just above us,covering the sun completely and there was hardly any crowd either.Spent half hour there and came to Baga Mandala which was a disappointment actually. There was hardly any water to say that there was a 'sangama' of 3 rivers there! But still-where there is water-I have to put my feet in there :-D So I did some climbing and jumping around to find a cleaner spot and put my feet in the chilly water for a few mins...A few photo ops later we started to Madikeri. By the time we reached Raja seat the sun had set and the crowd was waiting for the Musical fountain to start. We also roamed around the park a little, took pictures and waited for the musical fountain to start. Watched a couple of songs and then the crowd got too much for comfort and we just decided to walk away from there. Reaching the resort we directly went in to dinner at 8pm and by that time I had eaten so much that my stomach refused to take in any more food! I still had some rice, tasted my friend's wine, ate ice cream :-D and went back to the room. Any sleep that wanted to come just vanished while we did some channel surfing, loaded he photos onto my laptop and spoke until 1am. As we just slept, my friend T got a call from her hubby - at 2.30am to ask why she didnt call him before sleeping :-D Thinking about it now, I have a smile on my face but after that call we all took quite sometime to calm overselves and get back to sleep! :-D


Day 3: Saturday morning was depressing because we knew we had to go back! We once more went around the resort taking pictures and after another heavy brkfast (actually, you name it you have it kind of buffet it was through out the stay) we settled the bills and started from the resort at 11.45. On the way we visited the Namdroling Monastery and T did some shopping and bought a beautiful Buddha face to hang in her living room. We wanted to visit the Nimishamba temple (rather I wanted to) but then we were so hungry by the time we reached Srirangapatna that we just drove on to find a hotel to eat... HAd lunch at 3pm and coffee in the coffeeday at 4.30 :-) The journey back was more of listening to 90s songs and commenting about them rather than give away juicy pieces of our gossip to the driver. He too, I think, was bugged of our nonstop bak-bak by then :-D Though we dropped Gundu to her home at 6.30 it was past 8pm when I reached home after facing the sat evening traffic :-( cursing the same pollution and noise and the traffic was the first thing we did after enjoying the fresh air,chirping of the birds and cool breeze of Coorg...

Just before I left on this trip, there was a lot on my mind and I realise that I was on the verge of depression-having crying bouts and was feeling that I couldnt handle all the things that life was throwing at me from all directions. Now, at the end of the holiday -Im back completely refreshed and a lot more energetic and with a confidence that I will be able to handle everything that comes my way!


And for some of you who,Im sure will be thinking how Chutku handled this 2 nights seperation - he was a trooper. I had been telling him for 2 days that I will be going to 'Ooru' with my friends and though he kept saying that he wants to come too-he didnt really bother much while I was not there.With 2 sets of doting grand parents and Dad to take him around, he has enjoyed the 2 days as well as I have, I think. Yes, he did cry in the office on friday apparently because

I was not there but otherwise was fine. On saturday night when I reachd home-he got so excited that he did not even eat his dinner fully and kept hugging me and coming back for hugs :-) making me feel that he had missed me somewhere. And on sunday morning, he rolled towards me,slept on my arm and kept careassing my arm and stomach and sighing in his sleep - as if ensuring that I was back. Isnt that a pretty good reward to know that your baby missed you while you were away :-)

I thought I had learnt a lot about myself (introspection?) during this trip which unfortunately I have forgotten now..So was that all really a learning, I wonder.

Thought I will add some pictures to this post, but unfortunately Im unable to access Picassa from work - so that has to be done from home.Hmmm... I think its time I moved to a more upgraded android phone than the same old Samsung that I have... What say?

Edited to Add: I had written the post a week or so after I came back from the trip, but deciding to take a break-I didnt publish it then...so, putting it up here today. Better late than never,huh?

Friday, February 17, 2012

Friday Fun - 1 for the stolen moment

At the end of the tiring day when the 2 heads are on the same pillow (amma dimbu (pillow) mele thaachi) and general masti is going on.... A pair of tiny palms holds the big face,pushes the stray strand of hair away from the face and stares earnestly at the whole face and those tiny lips part in a full smile - says more than any words can say that he loves me :-D

And I had the most peaceful sleep in a really long time that night...

Leaving you with some pictures of the little monster...






Trying out Brownie ice cream for the first time


Wearing Amma's Watch


Thatha's helmet :-D


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

To Touch or not to Touch

Surprisingly after a really long time I came across this question - not in family but at the workplace! I couldnt believe my ears when a collegue said that she didnt want to share our food/touch us(me and my friend) because she was doing a vrat that day and fasting.And why didnt she want to touch? Because it was *that* time of the month for us!!


And that really shocked me. Here I am today wondering what I can do to ease the stomach cramps and the girl says this?! And then Im not even sure if she was just joking! Come on! A 20-something girl, working in an IT company means well educated, good exposure and THIS?!

Why? When I asked her what she does - she said that when she is at home she does sit out for 3 days and then doesnt eat with everyone-has her own set of vessels to eat with and no bath, no touching anything etc; And I was taken aback! In today's times when technologies, medical sciences have evolved and we have moved away from so many unnecessary traditions and proved that this one too is baseless she is still so conditioned to do all this?

I can understand that this was a necessity years ago when women did hard labour (I will even today advocate rest for those labour women,given a choice-even to me!) and hygiene standards were non-existent. When a woman could not clean herself up because there were no facilities available. But with all the sanitary options, why the mental block to move ahead? Why still be in the same time warp instead of moving forward and showing that this monthly thing does not make us weaklings.When we can handle this month on month - we can take on everything else too! I mean - come on! How much of hormonal changes, physical stress we go through during those days and still how much women have progressed in all fields we still have people who choose to do this because "My mom wants me to do it". Such is the condtioning.How disheartening.

Thankfully I had not many restrictions regarding this.Granny and Mom never made a big fuss out of it though I was banned from entering the Pooja Room. MIL never has even these thoughts. So in my own home I do what I want to but there are times that I suddenly think - If I were in mom's house, she wouldnt like it. But she doesnt say anything to me now, neither does she say anything to my SIL. And I always thought if I ever have a daughter Im never going to impose all these on her-ever!

Oh! And what is the need to announce and advertise to the entire world that the girl has attained puberty?! Horrible! and how embarassing to the little girl who has just realised what is happening and needs some space for herself to come to terms with all the changes in her body? Why put a pandal and invite the world over while all she wants is probably to be left alone? In a society like ours when its a taboo to talk about sex, they prefer to announce the beginning of mentruation cycle?! What double standards are these?

Yes, tradition and culture are all important-festivals for joy and celebration, God and temples for trust and faith in some power that is beyond us (this is another long pending post) but not just blindly follow a repressive custom just because our grand mothers or great grand mothers did it - they did it for a reason and now when the reason doesnt exist we need to cease following the tradition too... What tradition is it if it doesnt respect a scientific natural requirement of the human body that doesnt allow women of mentruating age to go to temples, or even more - females in general... Of all the talk of respecting women and progressive culture, the actions are still so repressive. And Actions DO speak louder than just words - dont they?

Do we really want to pass on this kind of a confused culture to our children? We need to come out of the 'culture cocoon' and form a new tradition, improve where our actions prove that we respect the women for all that they are-including their PMSs and their much necessary monthly cycles. That each of our child irrespective of gender is given equal opportunities (ofcourse, there is more that goes into this) And yes,we need to start with re-conditioning our own minds.

PS: This was on my mind and SnS's post triggered these words :-) Thanks SnS!(And oh! please excuse the multiple uses of !! and the grammar/spelling mistakes if any-I havent reviewed it before publishing :-) )

Friday, February 10, 2012

Friday Fun - His (High)Brattiness

I had heard that its always Terrible Twos and I guess somewhere I was also prepared for some amount of it! But at this level - Baap Re! I never expected so much of tantrum throwing/naughtiness/stubbornness from the tiny little fellow I had assumed him to be!

The Little Monster: Tuesday - I get not one but 3 complaints - from 2 moms and the child - "Chutku, pushed me. Chutku hit my baby today" and when I asked him "did you push" he says  "Amma, Chutku push Leena" Huh?! All through the journey back home I kept telling him that he should not hit/push anyone and he kept saying 'Chuktu Push Leena'. And not just that, he goes home and tells my mom "Ammamma, naanu Leena push maaDde" (I pushed Leena!) proudly! He has also learnt to pinch and Ouch, that really hurts! so if he wants cartoon and we refuse - you see him bringing his thumb and forefinger together ready to pinch!

He has become extremely vocal and expressive now. And he DEMANDS!
He generally sits in the front seat of the car - in his car seat and seat belt. All these days the seat belt was never an issue, now suddenly over the past 2 weeks he insists that he doesnt want to wear seat belt.
"Amma, beltu thegi,beltu beda" and when I asked him why he doesnt want to seat belt - " Naanu, appa car driving" action and noise included! A shocked Appa asked him then where will Appa sit? Very generously he points to his car seat and says "Appa illi sit-tu" :-D And I was literally ROTFL sitting in the back seat.

Dropping him to the day care is an excercise everyday now. He wants to first go see Appa TV (Laptop) at his Dad's desk and then see the fishy in the pond on the way, so as the car nears the office gate he says "Amma,neenu hogu naanu appa TV noDtheeni, neenu aamele baa" (Amma you go,I will watch Appa TV, you come later" and then when he does come into the day care he starts "Ratna Aunty beda, Amma beku" tantrum until I have to literally pry him away from me,hand him over to the lady and walk out. And if I go peep in the next 2 mins - he is happy playing on the tricycle.

Ah! Tricycle reminds me - His GrandParents have bought him one for his Bday and needless to say - everything happens on that these days. You want him to do anything, you only have to mention - Cycle beka? And the task gets done. Its the cutest when he goes behind his ammamma,points to the miniscule space behind him on the seat and says "ammamma baa, illi thookko (Koothko-Sit), Tata onana (HogoNa-we will go) " :-D And you can see the four adults in various positions laughing out heads off :-D But thats the innocence that thankfully is still retained...

The bestest advantage of having my parents around-I think I have mentioned this before - Mom spends an hour beginning at 7.15pm to nearly 8.15 running around behind him - on his cycle, showing Chandamaama, threatening that the 'Uppa Anna' (Ghee and Salt-Uppu-Thuppa has become Uppa, Anna-Rice) will be fed to Thatha and somehow ensures that some amount of dinner goes into that reluctant mouth...

Some of his vocabulary (I already mentioned Thookko and Onana):
All fruits are Banana
Tomato - Totomo
Potato - Topato
Iruve (ant) - Ivure
Kannadaka (specs) - thanaka
AppaLa(paapad) - Chappala! (Very close to Chappali=slippers,the first time he said it, took me a couple of mins to understand)
Haakko (Put/wear) - AathoLu
Thogo (take) - ThothoLu

And just to enjoy this thothla ram some more I teach him these words:
Kiladi Kitta - thilali thittha
Kedi Subba - thedi thubba
Thutherikki - Thuthithi
Akatakata :-P (Even husband couldnt say it first time
Shambho shankara -Thanno thanthana
Nautanki - Nathanthi

And Oh! The Kolaveri song - My God! This has become a must have these days in the car or even as a lullaby! And he sings most of the lyrics perfectly:
Hand la glaach
glaach la scotch
eyes fullaa teaLllu
Louu louu bouu bouu!!

And when I tell him 'Love You' he says "loouu louu bouu bouu" - I didnt know if I should get irritated because of the songs influence or I should just be glad about his memory power and his linking capacity!
Talking about memory, My cousin's wife came home last weekend and taught him Superman, superman song and yesterday he remembered it  and began to sing "Superman,superman: thatha van thatha van" !
And when I asked him who taught him ths song he said Athethe (Atthe) - I asked him is it K atthe? He says "Alla amma, K atthe alla, U atthe" - even remembering who taught him the song and when...

The biggest challenge for me now - How do I channalise all this memory power and unlimited energy? Im tired by the end of the day and he still has unlimited reserves... Whew! This parenting!

Monday, January 23, 2012

Taking a short Break...

Yippeee!! Im going away this weekend with my school friends! :-D to Coorg! All bookin done and we leave early thursday morning and be back on saturday night - and I CANT wait until thursday! :-D

And talking of blogging - Im thinking of taking a break here too for some time...Yeah, I know, for someone ho hardly blogs like once or twice a week this sounds ridiculous - did to me too... but then I saw RM's mail and Seema's mail (Thank You, ladies) and I was overwhelmed that they thought about me when they didnt see my comments.

I think thats another think with blogging - one doesnt really need to write everyday - as long as your friends know that you are around which you do by leaving your comment on their posts thats enough. But off-late there are so many things happening and at such a fast pace-life is throwing me things from all directions and right now Im a little high-strung and short of time. And let me admit-blogging is an addiction-Though Im not posting, Im definitely spending a lot of time blog hopping and commenting which I must ashamedly admit has affected my work. I need to catch up! So Take Care Ye' All... I'm still around but I might not be a frequent visitor on a daily basis and will catch up over the weekends (Hopefully, if Chutku lets me). This space matters to me and I dont want to just do it for the heck of it rather than enjoying it...


This break is just for a short time - A month max? Please, Pretty Please will you all still hang around here and not leave me? *Sob sob*